Frequently asked questions

What size is the book?

5.24 x 0.47 x 7.99 inches (approximately 5 inches wide by 8 inches tall).

How many pages does the book have?

172 pages.

How much does it weigh?

8.6 ounces.

What kind of cover does it have?

This book is a paperback.

Which e-book versions will be available?

The book is available on Kindle, through Amazon, and on Nook, through Barnes & Noble.

What languages is it available in?

The book is only available in English at this time.

What does the book contain?

This is the Table of Contents:

Forward by Mimi Secor 3

Introduction 5

What Is Sex—and Why Does It Matter? 8

Iris’s Ideas for Maintaining Good Sex and True Intimacy 20

10 Myths Surrounding Sex and Intimacy 32

What Does “Honor Your Partner” Mean? 111

Conclusion 115

The Last Word(s) 117

Appendix A: Personal Lubricants 118

Appendix B: Sexual Orientation 122

Appendix C: Gender Identity 128

Appendix D: Gender and Culture 135

References 137

Recommended Reading 149

Resources 151

Will the authors answer reader questions through the website?

The authors welcome comments about the book in the COMMENTS section. However, they will not be able to answer personal or medical questions.

Do you have a list of recommended doctors or healthcare institutions?

To find sexual health professionals and institutions in your area, use the American College of Sexologists searchable directory which includes healthcare providers in the U.S., Canada, and outside the U.S.: the http://www.americancollegeofsexologists.org/directory/usa/. Also, in the Resources section at the back of the book you'll find a list of websites, organizations, and individuals we found helpful, as well as a list of books under Recommended Reading.

Will you answer specific health-related questions?

For your safety, we do not provide personal medical advice via the Internet. You are welcome to use the COMMENTS section to share any feedback on how the book helped you. However, none of this should take the place of consulting your doctor, nor can it be considered personal medical advice.

I’m experiencing a new symptom or sex-related problem. Can you help?

If you are experiencing new or more severe symptoms or a reaction to a medication, we encourage you to speak with your doctor as soon as possible.

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